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| past lies - Lyn Brown |
| My problem is I have lied to my husband about important things. I believe I did this at the time to protect him from the bad feellings it would cause. In particular, we got married (22 years ago) at my parents place and when he asked me if I have had sex there I said no even though this was not true. Anyway, he feels very betrayed by this and cannot forgive me. How can I make him feel as if he is the only person for me and make him feel less hurt? |
| Re : past lies - My E-Expert - (10th Sep 2009)
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Dear Lyn,
Trust is the bedrock of any relationship. If you damage this foundation, you will have to double your efforts in order to re-build it.
To answer your question:
a) Make restitution /sincere apologies/ask for forgiveness for your errors with a promise never to repeat it or betray him. He should do the same too. Effectively ,in so doing, you both are renewing your marital vow and also entering into some verbal and informal marriage agreement.
b) "Come clean" if your husband can tolerate your past. He too must do the same.
c) Let your words be your words and your acts be your acts hence forth.
Please see our article: Marriage: Why it fails or succeeds.
http://www.myeexpert.com/areasofexpertise.php?id=239&page_category_id=27
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Good luck and God bless you |
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