Copyrights to these letters: Dr. Joel Akande
Key steps in writing letters of encouragement:
1. Letter or notes of encouragement should be brief and to the point. Persons in distress hardly have the time for long–winded conversation, but the letter should not be too abrupt.
2. If you are familiar with the individual or have a close or professional relationship, the letter may be a bit longer.
3. Words of encouragement should be helpful, giving positive advice and reassurance at very difficult time.
4. Note that your encouragement may also be part of a larger discussion in a letter or in a direct face-to-face discussion.
Samples of Notes and Letters:
I have just learnt from..... (Insert the person that told you) that you have lost your (insert name or relationship say your darling wife/husband...)
Please accept my heartfelt commiseration. My family’s prayer is with you at this time.
If there is anything that I can do to help, kindly let me know.
I received with sadness the passing of …. (Insert name or relationship: Friend, son, spouse etc).
I am at my wit’s end to understand how this could have happened at this time. But, be consoled in the knowledge that he (or she) is now at rest. I wish you great strength and comfort at this difficult time.
Please let me know if I can be of any assistance to you.
I am sorry to hear that you are unwell. In all of us, strengths do come and go and we sometimes feel under the weather. Knowing you, I am sure; it’s a matter of time before you are on your feet again.
I wish you well and quick recovery. (If appropriate, add the next sentence:) Big cheers and smiles when you receive this card.
Darling (husband or wife),
You have been a pillar of strength for me and the children when we were unwell. I am certain; this blip is a matter of time. It too will pass. So stay strong. All is going to be well with you.
Your husband (or wife)/ Yours with affection,
My dear (sons or daughters/ kids of up to adolescent age. Insert name necessary)
The swimming pool is vacant; the football is incomplete without you. The playground is yearning for your return. But illness needs attention too so you can get back on your feet. So, let the medic’s help you get better. I know you will be well soon. Therefore stay strong.
Anger, Frustration and Failure
To Family/Friend with Still born or dead child.
Language can sometimes not express human true feelings. I am indeed saddened by your loss. Things happen that we can not explain. May your sadness be turned unto joy for you. If there is anything that I can do to help, please feel free to let me know.
I wonder what the doctors were doing with their sharp knife, on you. I am certain however that it’s all for your good. Do heal quickly. I do know that you will be on your feet soon. My family sends their love. I hear that you are as strong as ever. Do keep up the smiling spirit.
I look forward to seeing you soon.
Dear ... (Friend, colleague, business associate, etc)
I am writing to say thank you for the wonderful support (or change it to services, gifts) that you gave me. I will forever cherish this sweet memory.
Please accept my gratitude for your kindest support towards me.
Dear.... (Including religious themes)
I am writing as way to show my appreciation for the invaluable assistance that I received from you during my... (Mention the circumstances if appropriate say graduation, illness, bereavement, christening, wedding etc).
I shall with fondness, remember your generosity that you rendered to me.
I pray the Lord to enrich you in many ways than one, in return for your kindness towards me and.... (Insert: Family, business, friends, sons, daughters etc).
Once again, thank you and God bless you.